To all those insecure people out there

Hmm....

Here's to some of the people that I really care about out there...

You will know who you are, and I am not refering to only one person... although I must admit that I am writing this because of something that happened to one individual recently...

One of the songs that my mum introduced to me when I was still a small little boy was "Everything is Beautiful", the chorus goes like this:

Everything is beautiful, in it's own way,
Like a starry summer's night or a snow-covered winter's day.
Everybody's beautiful, in their own way,
Under God's heaven, the world's gonna find a way.

I wish to bring your attention to the third line, people are beautiful, one way or another.
There might be someone that you have met, who appears to be a spawn of the devil, but that is only in your opinion. The same person might appear to be beautiful to someone else.

It is not easy living in our society. There are too many things that we have to take care of, we have our finance to take note of, our social status, our image, our outlook, if we are classy enough, whether we are cool enough, just to name a few. Because of all these, it is easy for a person to get insecure. Cause unless you are one of those lucky few born with a silver spoon in your mouth, there are just areas that you will have to sacrifice in order to enhance other areas.

In our modern age, we face different challenges from our forefathers. And in my humble opinion, our greatest challenge is to be comfortable with ourselves. With the advancement in technology and together with it, the media, our infomation sources is almost endless. We just need to click either on the mouse or the remote, and we get to know the latest news and trends, no sweat at all (unless you choose to sit in an enclosed room without even a fan).

With this endless chain of info, people tend to forget their contentment and want something more, something better, something new. The sad thing is, most people not only compare material stuff, but also their physical attributes. Everybody wants to be noted for their good looks and their lovely faces. And because of their quest for the perfect look, they forgot that there is something deep inside that counts more, something that they should treasure.

We all have our strongs and weak areas. We should all learn to be comfortable with whatever we have. No, I am not saying that we should be complacent. We should always try to improve. In order to improve, we should start by knowing ourselves and be comfortable with ourselves. We will try to improve in areas that are within our means and accept other areas that we cannot improve. Not only accept but love our flaws that are impossible to change.

While it is nice for someone to accept us but it is IMPOSSIBLE to please everyone. Even if you really want to please a particular someone, and that particular someone don't see enough of your good points, so be it! Remember: there are always someone who appreciates you. OPEN YOUR EYES and look around. If you choose to fall, these are the people who will feel the hurt. We all have our own treasures, we should make sure we protect our own treasures before we seek for others to treasure us...

Hmm... I hope I make sense here... and I hope this will help some of you out there...

Good Guys finish last?

Hehe, been quite some time since I added a post. Was too busy to even on my computer. Haizzz....

Anyway, I have been wanting to write this post for quite some time. So here goes....

Recently, a female friend commented to me that a guy should not be nice. And she is referring to a guy who is in a relationship. Then she went on to telling me how her friends treated their girlfriends (and they are, of course, nice deeds), and how they got dumbed instead...

This conversation reminds me of another friend, a guy, who used to be the most caring guy that I know. He is very attentive and he makes life easy for the people around him. We used to share the same dreams on building a family (not together, don't get the wrong idea, no gays here), but that has changed for him.

Now he is claiming that he will not wanna marry, and that he has given up on finding the right one. He said that gals nowadays only want material stuff and that they are too blind to see the good stuff that is in the person rather than what is shown outside. And this changed occured not because of a single gal.

It is quite sad to see the change in him. Nowadays, he can be quite mean towards gals and I am not talking about attitude only. I wish for him that he can find a gal that will change him again to his sweet old self.

Now for my nagging question: "what's wrong with being nice?" I am not saying that I am nice but I still do not understand what is so wrong with it. Is it wrong to show concern nowadays, to be there for another person? Does being nice equate to being taken advantage of? If a person is nice, is he supposed to increase his niceness towards his girlfriend as times go by?

We have read a lot about unfaithfulness in the papers recently. And I am not talking about guys being unfaithful. It might even be true that most guys are more concerned about being faithful in this modern era... Now, that should be a piece of good news... but on hindsight, with our thinking getting more liberal... Is it really good news? That's a sad thought...